Today is the first day of December. This year seems to have flown by right? Or is it just me? We are now in the last month of the year. This is when people begin to reflect on the past year. They look at their successes, failures and begin planning for the next year.
*ASIDE* [Please remember that it is never too late for anything. We may be in the last month of 2016 but it can still be a brand new start for you. You can choose to start anew/afresh. You can choose to behave and act differently, from today. It is not too late. It is never too late.]
Why do I say this with such confidence?
Well, a few years ago, a few friends and I from Uni were discussing a particularly sensitive topic and a question was asked. One of the ladies answered honestly. She was immediately shut down because her honesty made a few people uncomfortable. The general consensus was that as Christians, there are some things that are not supposed to be discussed (in public or at all).
She was very hurt (as any human being would be). At that time, I silently agreed with the person speaking who shut her down.
Recently, another similar conversation took place that required (needed) the truth and honesty. I waited to hear this lady in particular speak up but sadly, she remained quiet.
I later asked why she kept quiet and she reminded me about numerous situations wherein she spoke the truth and was rebuked (shouted down) by her brothers and sisters in Christ because they did not appreciate that level of honesty.
She simply no longer shared.
When certain conversations arose, she had learned to keep quiet.
My issue with this was, there was someone in the room who NEEDED to hear her tell the truth but because she did not (could not) speak up, that person missed out on hearing it.
Someone missed out on feeling better because the people she hung out with were more concerned with being perceived as perfect than being human.
Thankfully, both women had confided in me so I was able to pull them together after everyone had gone.
Why am I sharing this?
It makes me really sad that in some circles, people in the Church want to behave as if they have no challenges. They go about as if they have no struggles and everything is great.
Speaking up about inner turmoil/struggle is shut down when honesty about daily struggle can encourage your another person in not feeling isolated.
This is SO DESTRUCTIVE!!
Can we stop this please?!
I am not saying broadcast your woes or walk around glum and defeated.
It is not faithless to say, “see, I am struggling. Pray with (for) me. Stand with me”. There is nothing to be ashamed of in admitting weakness. Lest we forget that it is in our weakness that God’s power shines through?!
NO HUMAN BEING IS PERFECT! We ALL need grace. WE NEED ONE ANOTHER!
If you do not want to be honest, please allow someone else tell the truth.
Do not impose your cultural burden on another human being. Admitting you are human does not reduce your value or make you less of a Christian.
If everything was perfect, why then do we need God?
Let people be!
Oppression/Manipulation/Control is not godly.
For anyone who is reading this who is not Christian and so may not fully understand the above, my point is this, when next you want to ‘front’, pretend to be someone else, create a false persona for whatever reason or hide the real you, please don’t.
You do not know who you will encourage (or who will be able to help/stand with you) by being yourself – struggles, warts and all.
I learnt this the hard way.
You don’t have to.
Happy New Month!