For the last month or so, the notion of ‘Value’ keeps creeping up in many of my conversations and so I felt compelled to write about it. I wrote the last sentence a few weeks, if not months ago. This notion has come up again.
Depending on your life and outlook, value means very many things to as many people and the idea of value changes with age, qualification and achievement.
At 3 years old, what you look at as a thing of value, say a teddy bear with one eye missing is as valuable as the Crystal bowl worth £3,000 beautifying your hall way as a 30-year-old. They both have considerable value in very distinct ways.
It is easy to place value on things. Most people hear the word, ‘value’ and automatically think cost. If something is expensive, it is valuable and if it is cheap, it is not. After all, it was Confucius who said, “Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without.”
However, value is not always about price.
There is value in happiness, there is value in peace, there is value in love.
All these three, do not cost a cent but are very valuable. Everyone is chasing them because they add value to our lives and improve our well-being.
We are always asking people what they value. We ourselves ask whether we see the value in others, in things. But have you stopped to ask, “do I value myself?”
As someone who is currently self-employed, I meet potential clients who I have to convince of my value and MOST TIMES, I undervalue myself financially because I do not fully understand my value.
In a similar vein, I have been in situations where people introduced themselves by their profession, course of study and achievement. One guy actually introduced himself to me in the following way, “Hello. My name is David (not his real name). PhD. I am a lecturer in *cannot remember* and I have 3 businesses and I am about to conclude my MBA”. I was impressed but I was wondering if that was how he introduced himself to everyone. It was a mouthful. He asked what I did and I told him I was a Cleaner. His face fell and he made his excuses and walked away.
A few months later, we met and an acquaintance introduced us while I was working. David asked why I lied about what I did. I asked why it mattered. I hope he learned what I was trying to convey.
I have met many Davids and in too many cases, I too have played the David game because I find that if you do not, you are left out of very good leads because these people will immediately discard you simply because they feel you are not valuable (to them).
A lovely Nigerian friendly acquaintance once told me, “it is all about packaging“.
When you package yourself well enough, people see value and respond positively.
I struggled a few days ago after I received bad news and I started reeling off to my self, all the good things I had achieved. In all this counting, I asked myself, “if you did not do any of these things, does it make you any less valuable”?
The truth (as I see it) is, no. A human being, ANY human being is valuable, intrinsically, completely, totally – however you want to put it. Wholly based on the fact that they are human (I am sure aliens are valuable too). The fact that I am, living, breathing, made by God, makes me valuable. Full stop. No further explanation needed or required.
I remember one of my favourite verses;
“You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.“ – Psalm 139:13 – 14 (NLT)
And I give thanks. It reminds me that God took His time and created us all – exceptionally. It reminds me that people are valuable no matter what they do (or do not do!). You, dear reader are valuable whether you have 10 PhDs and a Nobel prize or whether you did not graduate high school. Your value is not in your occupation, qualification or achievement.
YOU ARE VALUABLE BECAUSE GOD CREATED YOU.
I have to keep reminding myself about this fact, whether it is about myself or about others.
As a society, we need to change the lenses through which we view people and things. It is true that we need to try to do the best we can but it is also true that we should never base our value or the value of others on acquisitions.
Let us take things back to basics. Human beings 101. Lol! You will be happier and more at peace for it.
“Hello, my name is Chidinma. I am a human being 🙂 “
Love and Blessings,