I try to not expect too much from people because I understand that many people cannot afford to match and or meet my expectations. This is the simple truth so I am satisfied with most because I receive what they can give, with thanks.
One day, I called someone to ask whether he was ready to contribute to something he volunteered to do. He said he was not (his reason was valid). Then he proceeded to ask me how I was. I was irritated by this for a while and I could not understand why. Until someone needed a favour for the umpteenth time and asked me how I was, after I had helped resolve her issues.
Disclaimer! I would like to point out that, these two people are perfectly beloved of the Lord and are not the villains in this story. They are humans who may have forgotten to love on purpose because life does get in the way, especially in the times we are living in.
This post is not to pretend that I always love on purpose. I do not and I too forget. This post is a reminder to both myself and you, dear reader, to TRY to love on purpose. I learned a while ago that love is a verb. Passivity and love are incompatible.
There are many situations where various situations like the above can be excused and many more where, if love was on purpose, I would not have felt the way that I did. The truth is, I would have preferred to not have been asked at all because this feels faux. You ask because I have helped. You asked because I sought you out. You asked out of social convention.
It was better to not have been asked at all.
There is something so wonderful about being chosen, being sought after, being thought of. There is something warm and nice about being genuinely cared for with evidence to back up words that would have otherwise been meaningless. This is what loving on purpose does. It provides the kindness and nurturing aspects of love.
It leaves the recipient feeling, seen…loved.
This post is a gentle reminder that loving on purpose is the only way to love. Anything else may result in damage.
Don’t perform love.
Don’t fake love.
Don’t make love obligatory. It defeats the purpose.
Don’t weaponise or monetise love. It cheapens it.
If you want to love, love with your whole heart. Love with vim. Love with action. Love, intentionally…
Love on purpose!
“Long ago the Lord said to Israel: “I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself”.
Jeremiah 31:3 NLT
Love and Blessings,